Neuro-linguistic programming Quotes


  • You want to become competent at whatever you do. That does not mean to get phobics, who shake in their boots while their blood pressure blows through the roof, to believe, “This is not fear.” The object is to get them to stay calm and alert, and to stay in their own lane, and to drive across the bridge, which remains standing.
    o Richard Bandler, Time for a Change, 1993, p. 2–5

  • Ask yourself; “Can we build better?” To build those things we have to be able to suspend whatever belief system we already have. Keep it out of the way… Those things get very, very personal. We’re talking about basic beliefs regarding human capability. Here’s the only truth about that. Nobody knows.
    o ibid., pp. 2–5

  • We have presented these patterns as explicitly and systematically as we can, in order to make it easy for you to learn them. We have presented them in great detail, and warned you about all the mistakes we and others have made with them, to make it hard for you to use them inappropriately. Once you have taken the time to learn these methods thoroughly, you can become more flexible and artistic in utilizing them with clients, with confidence that your behavior will remain systematic and effective.
    o Steve and Connierae Andreas, Change your mind and keep the Change, 1987, pp. x–xi

  • The study of the structure of subjective experience.
    o Bandler, Grinder, also the title of a book by w:Robert Dilts [1]

  • An attitude and a methodology that leaves behind a trail of techniques.
    o Bandler [2]

  • [Milton Erickson] does not translate unconscious communication into conscious form. Whatever the patient says in metaphoric form, Erickson responds [matches] in kind. By parables, by interpersonal action, and by directives, he works within the metaphor to bring about change. He seems to feel that the depth and swiftness of that change can be prevented if the person suffers a translation of the communication.
    o Haley, Uncommon therapy, 1973 + 1986, p. 28


  • The ability to change the process by which we experience reality is more often valuable than changing the content of our experience of reality.
    o Bandler [3]

  • We have no idea about the ‘real’ nature of things … The function of modeling is to arrive at descriptions which are useful.
    o Bandler & Grinder (1979) p.7.

  • “The map is not the territory.”
    o Originated from Alfred Korzybski

  • People already have all the resources they need to succeed [or change].
  • “Life and ‘Mind’ are systemic processes.”
    o Originated from Gregory Bateson

  • Underlying structure (form) matters more than specific content
  • Behind every behavior is a positive intention.
    o Originated with Virginia Satir

  • There is no failure, only feedback.
    o Originated from information theory (Asbby, Cybernetics).

  • The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
    o Originated from Gregory Bateson and axiomatic in anthropology, known as cultural relativism.

  • Choice is better than no choice (and flexibility is the way one gets choice).
    o Originated from systems theory

  • Multiple descriptions are better than one.
    o Originated from Gregory Bateson

  • There are no resistant clients; there are only incompetent [less skilled] therapists.
  • NLP is generative.
  • NLP is based upon distinctions in sensory observation.
  • Good NLP is 90% information gathering and testing, and 10% changework.
    o Saying of John Seymour, NLP master trainer, may be more widespread.

  • Everyone is different, always check, never assume a pattern is universal.
  • Use whatever works.
    o Principle of utilization, originated: Milton Erickson, who was famous for turning peoples self-perceived defects, or limitations, to positive use.

  • If something can be done effectively and ecologically in ten minutes, don’t spend an hour doing it.
  • If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.
  • Sometimes worded: If what you are doing isn’t working, try something [anything] else
  • Understanding is the booby prize.
    o Saying of John Seymour, master NLP trainer, to signify that effective change and/or learning is far more important than ‘understanding’, and that change does not always require interpretation and analysis. Originated with Milton Erickson who was notable amongst psychiatrists, because he would avoid “interpreting” back to the client (as described above)

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